Saturday, January 30, 2010

Married - To Be or Not To Be

My girlfriend and I were discussing our options. Is marriage more economically sound than getting a divorce? There are so many articles discussing the pros and cons of this subject. It appears I am not the only curious vixen out there....

She indicated that there are times where she tries to analyze his actions. For example, why can't he notice there is a mess that he is walking through while she is attempting to cook dinner, contain the fight between their children, and rushing to get the laundry in the dryer at the same time? Why does he act shocked when she gets pissed off? Who gave her this position in the first place?

We laughed at our similar aches and pains and continued our discussion for well over two hours. We have come up with this conclusion: we are enablers. We would rather do everything ourselves to prevent from confronting yet another child - our husbands - in an effort to teach him what he should already know.

It isn't like we are newleyweds. She has been married well over 18 years. I have been married for almost 10 years. This isn't even my first marriage, for crying out loud!!!!

At some point, we just gave up trying to change them. Instead, we opt for a really good fight at least twice a year, where our heads make a turn like Linda Blair in the Exorcist and we beat them with something.

Where are the articles on the real relationships of today? Personally, we are tired of the sweet stories (mostly made up, for sure). And to think, there are reality shows displaying the crazy women who are getting ready to get married (Bridezillas).

There is only one truth - it is definitely not financially smart to get a divorce, so we have to figure out ways to even things up so that we are not the only ones getting screwed (not that we are getting much to begin with, but that will be another story).

Any suggestions?

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Say It Is So

Menacing are your ways
Enchanting me with your eyes
Aggressive is your embrace
Nocturnal, else void of existence
Independently you express your rage
Numb to the conservative eye
Inflicting pain with the truth of your words
Naked when you have no voice
Graceful in your stance at confrontation
Faithless in that you can't even trust yourself
Undeniable your strength and determination
Lustful are your intentions and your actions

Yes. You are Meaningful to Me...