Dealing with It

She is so painfully transparent - always calling out for attention, craving excitement, forever restless, demanding everyone’s exclusive time. She is always eating. She is always loud.

How does she handle herself? She is angry and lacks patience. She eats food for the sake of comfort, even when she is not hungry. She blames all of her problems on everybody but herself. She complains about helping; she complains about being bored, but she never does anything constructive.

Whom does she share time with? She spends time with anyone who is willing. She judges only those who deny her, yet she accepts all faults if they provide her with attention.

Why do I fear for her? Outside she is angry. She is addicted to attention and love. She does not analyze life realistically. She lacks self-esteem, and she can be easily manipulated. It is a matter of time before she falls; I want to protect her from that possibility.

Why do I love her? Inside her heart is pure. She is lost and alone. She is unique. She is innocent with regard to the realities of life. She needs me.

Parents understand this. Fathers loathe this. Relationships suffer because of this. People fail when they don’t notice this: the paths are set before us, but no one will teach you about the rocks, glass, and storms you have to cross before you reach your goal. They are afraid to tell you they have been there before you. It is a foolish mistake many parents have made. You need to remind yourself and your children that you were once young and that you might be able to provide some insight and some guidance.

You should see the person for what he or she represents. Realize the potential of dreams. Infuse confidence, even when you are scolding. Teach them how to stand on their own two feet again.